Maximizing Our Moments with Loved Ones – Tiny Buddha
“Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” ~Robert Brault
As I find myself in the bittersweet space of preparing for my son to leave for college, I’m reminded of the importance of mindfulness in navigating these transitions. It’s easy to get caught up in the emotions of “empty nesting,” yet I have come to realize that facing these feelings is an opportunity for growth, even amidst the bittersweet nature of it all.
Each school event serves as a gentle reminder of the approaching graduation day, and I’ve found myself surrounded by other parents, all processing their emotions in their own unique ways. I’ve noticed how easily one can drift into thoughts of future goodbyes, missing out on the beauty of the present moment. This reflection brought to mind a beautiful poem by Bashō:
Even in Kyoto
hearing the cuckoo’s cry
I long for Kyoto
This poem perfectly encapsulates the deep yearning we might feel—an appreciation for the beautiful moments, while also sensing their fleeting nature. It’s a delicate balance of being present and acknowledging our emotions.
With my son’s remaining months in high school, I’ve decided to embrace a practice of savoring. Not just in the context of food, but in every moment we share together—whether it’s a glowing sunset, the soft scent of blooming flowers, or simply the warmth of his laughter.
Instead of worrying about the future, I can focus on savoring our time together. I recall a mindful practice I often teach, called “S.T.O.P.” In this practice, I: Stop, Take a deep breath, Observe through my senses, and then Proceed with awareness.
During our time in the kitchen, instead of multitasking, I allow myself to fully engage with my senses. I listen deeply with my whole heart, not half-thinking about what comes next, but truly absorbing the moment. As our interaction concludes, I take a moment to appreciate the warm connection we share, allowing that feeling to linger within me.
With this approach, the impending changes become less overwhelming. Every day, I carve out time to savor our moments—whether it’s the enticing aroma of a dish being prepared or the joy in his voice as he shares stories. Each interaction becomes a rich tapestry of connection and mindfulness.
As the scent of dinner wafts through the air, I immerse myself in the essence of the moment, cherishing the small joys that make our time together so special.
About Madelyne Schermer
Madelyne is a meditation teacher and trained mindfulness facilitator from UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC). She specializes in connecting individuals with the healing power of nature through forest therapy and nature meditation. Her passion lies in leading community and parent groups, working with teens, and facilitating workplace mindfulness. You can find her on Instagram @abundancemindfulness.
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